Raymond J. Sonderfan, Rigby’s Bar & Grill bartender
Raymond J. Sonderfan, a cherished friend, beloved family member, and pillar of his community, of Lewes and Wilton Manors, Fla., passed away peacefully Wednesday, April 23, 2025, surrounded by loved ones. He was born Jan. 31, 1972, in Paterson, N.J. He was a man of immense warmth known for his open heart, unforgettable sense of humor, a smile that could light up any room, and an enduring love of adventure.
Raymond shared his life with his partner, Ronald Zseltvay, whose love and companionship were the cornerstones of his joyful and generous spirit. Their union created not just a home, but a space that welcomed and embraced everyone who crossed its threshold.
He was preceded in death by his loving parents, John Raymond Sonderfan and Ethel Sonderfan; and his brother, John Sonderfan. Raymond is survived by his adoring sisters, Beverly Sogno (Guenter), Ethel Lillo (Joe), Debbie Hillman (Howard) and Ronda Azmat, who will carry his memory forward with grace. He was a proud and caring father figure to Michele Azmat, Robbie Azmat (Valentina) and Sarah Carter (Joshua), who knew him as a constant source of encouragement, stability, laughter, and love. Ray was also a loving uncle to Stephanie, Matthew, Jennifer, Christopher, Aaron, Jason, Rachel and Johnnie (his beloved nephew in heaven).
Raymond was a lifelong best friend and bonus brother to the Jones family, Richard (Rebecca), Robert (Kendra), Chris (Sharon), Patricia Carter (Waylon), Warren (Jeannine), and Lori Ann Brogdon (mother to Ray’s namesake, Matthew Michael-Ray). He was there for family vacations, events, and bringing life in quiet moments—always a brother, son, and uncle. With a rare gift for listening without judgment, he made people feel seen, heard, and valued. He had a unique knack for having a good time, making everyone laugh, and being the start of a new adventure.
Growing up in Sussex County, N.J., Ray was known for his athleticism in track, swimming, and cross country. He earned his bachelor of science degree in mathematics from Princeton University. Ray went on to become a successful business owner and loved bartending, not just as a profession, but as a way to bring people together. His establishments became havens of inclusivity, kindness, and celebration, filled with music, laughter, friendship, and his unmistakable voice belting out karaoke favorites.
His legacy is one of compassion, joy, and the enduring reminder that love, in all its forms, is the greatest gift we can offer one another.
A Celebration of Raymond’s Life will be held from 11 a.m. to 2 p.m., Saturday, June 28, at Rigby’s Bar and Grill, Rehoboth. It will be filled with the laughter and love he so effortlessly gave to the world.
He will be missed deeply, loved eternally, and remembered always.
