Robert James Willoughby Jr., accomplished chef
Robert James Willoughby Jr., 63, entered into the light at home surrounded by loved ones Saturday, July 12, 2025, in Lewes.
He was the son of the late Robert and Myrna Willoughby. He was also predeceased by his nephews, Jason Sweeney and Cody Hopkins. He is survived by his husband of 24 years, Danny Slagle; his sisters, Sheri Sweeney (George Sweeney), Wendy McVicker and Lori Hopkins (Bill Hopkins); stepdaughter, Lindsay Haines; grandson, Mason Johnston; and many nieces, nephews, and friends.
RJ was known for his flashy drum major performances as a graduate of Ridley High School. This led to his love and passion for Drum Corps International, for which he was a member of the Crossmen. He had many interests, which included gardening, sports, dancing with the DC Cowboys, biking, running marathons, trips to the mountains, Penn State and Eagles football, horseback riding, and weekly gatherings with friends to enjoy RuPaul's Drag Race. But he was at his happiest in the kitchen. He was a self-taught pastry chef when he opened his bakery in the ‘80s. He relocated to Delaware in 1998, where he discovered his true passion for the culinary arts industry. He taught at Laurel High School as the culinary teacher, where he immersed himself in sharing his knowledge and skills with his students. Due to his guidance and encouragement, many of his students have chosen to follow in his footsteps.
RJ will be remembered for his smile, wit, his positive attitude, love of Breyers ice cream, joy of life, compassion for mankind, giving his honest opinion, and enjoying a glass of the finest bourbon around the fire with family and friends.
RJ’s final journey was becoming the catering chef for the nonprofit Children’s Beach House in Lewes.
A Celebration of Life will be held from 12:30 to 5 p.m., Saturday, July 19, at Children’s Beach House, with the celebration starting at 1 p.m.
In lieu of flowers, donations can be sent to Children’s Beach House, 1800 Bay Ave., Lewes, DE 19958.
Online condolences can be made by visiting melsonfuneralservices.com.
