This is the first of a new recurring column dealing with the challenges of changing lifestyles, whether that be planning to downsize to a smaller home; simplifying and refreshing a current home through decluttering and reimagining; or clearing out a home as part of an estate. The column will appear regularly.
Q: My husband and I can’t agree on whether we should downsize to a smaller home. How do we break the tie? Sue A., Milford
A: Marriage counseling is not in my wheelhouse, but I can give you five easy questions to discuss with your husband that may get you closer to a decision. The questions are: Does our existing home meet our needs? How much does it cost to downsize? Would a new community better suit our lifestyle or stage in life? Is it a smart financial move? Is your current house overwhelming you with maintenance? Deciding to move is a big decision, but these questions can be useful in determining whether it makes sense.
Q: What if I want to stay in my current home, but downsize my stuff? Kim T., Selbyville
A: That’s easy! Sorting through things and packing up belongings can metaphorically cleanse the soul! Start with one closet, one room, one space. Take your time. Determine what a family member might want, what you want to donate, what just needs to be thrown away, and what may have some value and could be sold. Your mantra should be: one room at a time, one box at a time.
Q: Our kids are grown and have left our home. How do we know when it’s time to downsize? Tom C., Lewes
A: Ah yes, when the kids are gone, your house can begin to feel very big and very empty. For some people, it’s the perfect time to downsize to a smaller home. But, you may not have to. Before you start looking for a new home, you may be able to make some changes to your current home that could accommodate your new life. If you have a multi-level home, consider a small remodel project, if needed, to make sure you can live on one level…with a bedroom and full bath in addition to the living spaces. You can then save the upper level for guest rooms when the kids come to visit!
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Stacey Himler is owner of Caring Transitions of Southern Delaware, the region’s professional solution for full relocation services including downsizing, decluttering and estate sales.
To ask Stacey questions, write her at AskStacey@caringtransitions.com.
