This is the first of a new recurring column dealing with the challenges of changing lifestyles, whether that be planning to downsize to a smaller home; simplifying and refreshing a current home through decluttering and reimagining; or clearing out a home as part of an estate.  The column will appear regularly. 

Q: My husband and I can’t agree on whether we should downsize to a smaller home.  How do we break the tie? Sue A., Milford 

A: Marriage counseling is not in my wheelhouse, but I can give you five easy questions to discuss with your husband that may get you closer to a decision.  The questions are:  Does our existing home meet our needs?  How much does it cost to downsize? Would a new community better suit our lifestyle or stage in life?  Is it a smart financial move?  Is your current house overwhelming you with maintenance?  Deciding to move is a big decision, but these questions can be useful in determining whether it makes sense.  

Q: What if I want to stay in my current home, but downsize my stuff? Kim T., Selbyville 

A: That’s easy!  Sorting through things and packing up belongings can metaphorically cleanse the soul!  Start with one closet, one room, one space.  Take your time.  Determine what a family member might want, what you want to donate, what just needs to be thrown away, and what may have some value and could be sold. Your mantra should be: one room at a time, one box at a time.  

Q: Our kids are grown and have left our home. How do we know when it’s time to downsize? Tom C., Lewes 

A: Ah yes, when the kids are gone, your house can begin to feel very big and very empty.  For some people, it’s the perfect time to downsize to a smaller home.  But, you may not have to. Before you start looking for a new home, you may be able to make some changes to your current home that could accommodate your new life.  If you have a multi-level home, consider a small remodel project, if needed, to make sure you can live on one level…with a bedroom and full bath in addition to the living spaces.  You can then save the upper level for guest rooms when the kids come to visit!